The Harnisch Family

The Harnisch Family

Feb 18, 2012

Macy's first day at Munroe Meyer Institute

When Macy was born, we were given a list of "things to do" and a much bigger list of "things to think about".  Something that was very high on the "do" list was call UNMC's Munroe Meyer Institute and get her on the waiting list for their renowned "Speech and Language Disorder Clinic".  This intense program would be offered for free thanks to the funding provided by the Scottish Rite Masons.  They have taken this on as their Philanthropic Mission, and families like us are grateful to them for their generosity and giving hearts!  
check out the video below for a more detailed explanation of this awesome program...



We were told the waiting list was at least two years long...so don't delay.  Well...last week...She got the call! Macy had been accepted and a spot has opened up for her and she could begin immediately.
I was, of course, EXCITED for Macy, but was
kind of bummed too, as I will need to give up my Thursday morning "Mom's" Group @ Lifegate (this group entailed breakfast, coffee, FREE CHILDCARE, meaningful conversations with other wonderful women & fills my "spiritual bucket" so to say).  I, as well as my girls, will miss going there on a regular basis :-(  This is just one of those sacrifices we as parents have to make to ensure the "betterment" of our little ones futures I guess. 
The inability to communicate clearly and effectively would most certainly serve as a significant barrier to leading an inclusive and fulfilling life - being socially active is a major life goal (among others) we have for her.   One we laid out in our "Long Term Vision" plan.  Isn't that really what anybody wants for their kids.  To be happy and have friends?
Below were some bullet pointed goals we established (last year) for our young Adult "not-so-Little.21.YEAR.OLD Miss Macy":
*  Be Happy
*  Socially Active - have a close-knit group of friends

*  Satisfying and gainfully employed

*  Involved in the community  (goes hand-in-hand with being "a contributing member of society")

*  Family focused
*  Independent/self sufficient with every day tasks
*  Transitioning into a Post-Secondary Education
*  Polite and Courteous
*  Be Respectful and have Integrity
*  Fiscally responsible & financially aware
*  Goal Oriented
*  Possess appropriate behavior and good overall hygiene
*  Have strong Christian core values and principles


While these goals were set specifically with Macy in mind, we certainly hope for McKenzie, as well as any other children we may have, to achieve these same PERSONAL LIFE goals.
The existence of this program, a program that helps kids with disabilities.  Let me say that again.  A program that helps MY MACY COMMUNICATE, is just one reason why I have such high hopes for our little girl.  She CAN have big dreams, she can reach for the stars, she WILL achieve her MANY goals.  She WILL be able to participate freely and fully as a contributing member of society in all aspects of common life.  This clinic is just another example of the countless opportunities and resources that are available to our extra-ordinary kiddos right here in our community. It is up to us to simply take advantage of every thing that comes our way.  Macy, you WILL do great things - THE SKY'S THE LIMIT!
Last time I was at MMI - for this "GRANDS" meeting with a Genetics Counselor to learn more about people with Down Syndrome (inside & out), and programs available to them.  Now we actually get to start participating in these programs!
I didn't have my camera with me on Macy's first day of school (as daddy took it to some really important CPA conference or something, grrr, hehe).  But I did have my trusty iPhone & luckily Casie, Vollen's momma, always has her camera in tow...so I borrowed hers.  :-) 
Macy gets out of the car. she's like "whoa, where the heck are we?!"
she decides she wants to play with the snow for a bit before going in.
She enjoyed running down and exploring the long, twisty hallways that led us to the elevator.  ta-da.  The kid LOVES elevator rides!  Her class is on the 3rd floor  :)
This isn't a great photo (blurry phone pic)...but I think it does a great job illustrating her excitement and the genuine anticipation she has for this class!  She was ALL smiles!
Macy signing "more" to one of the therapists.
That's her buddy Vollen sitting to her left!  She was so excited to learn that she was going to be in his SAME class...AGAIN...he also goes to "Little Learning Leaf" preschool with her! 
I was excited about this too, as I get to sit and chat with Casie in the "observation" room during all their classes.  We always have plenty to talk about and catch up on!
When we arrived, Macy marched right into that class room like it was no big thing.  She took her seat and was anxious to GET STARTED!  I think her teachers were a bit taken aback by this.  hehe.  Perhaps they are used to kids (especially on their first day) exhibiting a bit of fear of a new and strange place, with unfamiliar people, accompanied by typical "age appropriate" separation anxiety. 
But nope, not our Macy.  She's FEARLESS and ready for anything!  (a good and a bad thing at times)

Macy was so enthusiastic and happy the entire time.  My baby girl listened, clapped, danced and followed directions like a champ.  She was totally "into it".  I continue to be super impressed with her patience and attention span.  We'll see how long she keeps that up.  hehe
love those busy blurry hand motions
sitting still, with her hands together...following directions
patiently waiting her turn
she is apparently very proud of herself for something here.
crafts
When looking at these pics, it's important to keep in mind that they are taken through darkly-tinted glass from our one-way mirrored "observation room" - no flash, etc.  :)
They literally moved those desks around the room from station to station (probably so the kids don't get bored being stuck in the same room for so long.  Each corner provided a change of scenery of sorts.  An area for learning about the calendar & songs, another area for storytime, an area for crafts and Macy's favorite...SNACK!  Pretty sure the Snack station was and will continue to be her favorite  :-)
Sweet Vollen given Macy a goodbye hug.  geesh Mac, nothing like playing "hard to get".

We are already looking forward to what next week has in store!  :-

Feb 13, 2012

Another Macy Sign language book

Remember this first book I made about a year or so ago???  Macy's first sign book
 I am in the process of creating another one! 

Like most kids, especially those with Down Syndrome, Macy is a visual learner, who learns best FROM WATCHING HERSELF IN ACTION. Macy loved her first book SOOO Much, that she has strongly encouraged me to make another.   Her Speech Pathologist, Sharon, is wonderful and is going to, once again, bind it into DURABLE (Macy proof) book form for us!
I know that there are several great signing books & DVD's out there (our favorite video series is Baby Signing Time).  There are also many awesome websites to reference and learn from (I really like BabySignLanguage.com)...but I know that our kids learn so much from seeing themselves performing an action or task, etc...And Macy is NO exception!  Hence the reason we still have a mirror in our family room - the kid LOVES it - she is her own BIGGEST FAN - the SMARTEST most CUTE person she knows!!!
Plus, if nothing else, we had lots of fun shooting these pics.  It was a great way to spend a dreary, snowy & frigid day late last week.
I, myself, am a visual learner, so going through the motions of editing these pages & locating the various signing images allows me to better learn them myself - so that I can more naturally incorporate them into our daily dialogue.  It's a great learning experience & exercise for me  (the sometimes slow-learner)   :-)
 
Here they are in the order in which they will appear in book form:


Macy's signing and communication skills have really picked up these last few months.  She has come SOOO far!  We are just so very proud of her  :-)

These homemade picture books, along with our scrapbooks and of course our FOUR blog books remain to be household favorites  :-)  Macy enjoys flipping through and seeing herself & Kenzie likes to climb up on my lap and relive recent "Harnisch Happenings".  :-)
Melt my heart!

Feb 9, 2012

Aunt Keri takes the PLUNGE!

Macy's Aunt Keri is crazy! But mostly she's awesome. 
She's jumping into ICY COLD waters next week to raise money, awareness and support for the Special Olympics - Nebraska. Go Keri GO! We'll be there to watch and be her "biggest fans in the stands".  Please check out her page
Oh & don't ya just love the picture she used.  hehe.  Macy should be charging "royalties" for other people profiting from her cuteness.  (hehe totally kidding!)
I want to share her "blurb" here so that it prints out in our keepsake blog books.  I just thought everything she had to say was SOO very sweet & kind  :-)
"In honor of the most amazing little girl my family was blessed with 2 years ago, I thank you for considering a donation to the Special Olympic Athletes of Nebraska.  My niece Macy Harnisch has been an absolute joy to our lives and I cannot imagine life without her.  There are no boundaries for this little girl and the sky is the limit.  At the early age of two this little "go getter" already had opportunities to participate in a Special Olympics Young Athletes Program, http://www.theharnischfamily.blogspot.com/2011/12/special-olympics-young-athletes-program.htmlhttp://www.theharnischfamily.blogspot.com/2011/12/special-olympics-young-athletes-program.html.  We are all committed to being her biggest fan as she conquers this world. 
As part of the US Bank Polar Bear Plungers, I will be jumping in frigid cold waters the morning of Saturday, February 18th.  Thanks for considering sponsoring me for this event.

Keri Mallory
And WOW, she actually JUST reached her hefty goal of $500.  Thank you Keri, the Special Olympics organization will most certainly put this money to good use!  But, please feel free to donate to this awesome cause anyway (via Keri), as we don't like to settle for just REACHIING goals in our family...we strive to EXCEED goals...and Little Miss Macy is living proof of just that.  Way to go Keri!
I'll leave you with a couple short video clips of one of her most recent "Special Olympics - Young Athlete's program" experiences  :-)
in the top video she shows off her mad "crawling.through.long.tunnel" skills.  :-)  And below she moves from one apparatus to the next.  The girl's always on the move and ready to conquer the next best obstacle!

Feb 3, 2012

Happy Early Valentine's Day!


The girl's wanted to share a little early love :-)

"Disability Theology" Class at MU

It was surreal being back on Midland's campus the other day...ten years after graduating!  Man I felt old.
This is a pic of Kenzie running across campus last fall, one day we were visiting Grandpa Harnisch.

But, mostly I was excited and looked forward to being a part of Dr. Wilder's "Christian Theology" class.

hmmmmm.  Looks like I am "THAT PERSON".  That person who actually takes a college class for fun and is not seeking any official credit hours.  Who does that?
And of all classes I would have thought I would be interested in taking (for fun), you'd think that anything Photography related, somthing associated with graphic arts, journalism. PR or marketing perhaps?  But nope.  Ten years ago, never in a MILLION years, would I have imagined that I would be motivated to sit in on a RELIGION class (I'm just being honest).

But this course is unique & happens to be quite relevant to my specific interests during this exact season of my life.  And the professor is awesome, relatable and has a wonderful energy and spirit about her.

Dr. Wilder (Courtney as she insists on being referred to as) sent me a note a couple weeks ago (just out of the blue) asking if I would be at all interested in coming to speak to her students.  She basically wanted me to share my experiences with Down Syndrome, how this new journey has impacted our life, how WONDERFUL Macy is, the kinds of outreach programs and various resources that are available to these individuals and their families, etc...

I thought it was very nice of her to think of me in this regard...
I told her I would absolutely love to come speak to her class, and that I do not, by all means, consider myself any sort of expert in this area, but I am a parent with a pure and honest journey, of which I do not mind sharing with others.  I consider myself a lifetime advocate for my sweet girl as well others with disabilities.  I simply want to spread the word that people with special needs are capable of living long, productive and fullfilling lives.  My ultimate dream is for Macy to grow up in a world that is accepting, inclusive and finds value in her as well as in others like her.
Things are changing in our society, things are changing in our schools, things are changing in our churches and work places...and I am thrilled to see that things are changing at Universities (and at my Alma Mater no less)!
This dynamic class consists of about 40 or so students.  I have learned that most are religion, nursing or teaching majors -all of which are relevant and associate regularly and will have constant exposure to individuals with special needs.  Makes sense!  I'm glad there is now a class of this nature available to them.  :-)
It is my goal to help, in any small way that I can, to help generate awareness for a more tolerant society that embraces, encourages and celebrates these differences.

I told Courtney that it would be fascinating to speak to her "Disability Theology" class.  In fact, I was wondering what the possibility might be for me to sit in on the entire semester!?  I though it would be very insightful and enlightening to sit in on all of them (not just the one/ones I would be speaking at). 
Just thought it couldn't hurt to ask right!  :-)  I mean it's not as though I have a life anyway (ha!).

So was so very kind, checked into it, and said that she would be "delighted" to have me in the class.
Strangely enough, that while I feel as though we are super busy lately and could not possibly squeeze anything more into our daily schedule, it just so happens that Mon, Wed & Fri from 1:15 - 2:05 will actually fit nicely into our routine afterall.  With daycare and the help of my dad we can make it work...ha!

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I'm excited to have this opportunity to "spread the good word" and fill my own spiritual bucket at the same time. :-).  All the while being a part of every (well, maybe not every but most) class all semester long.
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So...this semester we will explore a wide range of texts on disability, religion, the Disability Rights & it's relation to the human rights movement, the ELCA's Socal Statement on disability, how this all fits into Christian thoelogical traditions, etc...I am going into it with an open mind and heart. I say open heart, as this is a complex and ambiguous issue, which will be viewed from all different angles, perspectives and opposing interpretations.  Some of which may be heart-breakingly difficult for me to hear about, but it's okay, I think it's healthy and okay to hear it - step outside of my safe "bubble" for a bit (and then turn around and be grateful that these are not the thoughts and feelings of most - not my friends & family at least - and that's ALL that matters).
I may interject with a few arguments - but mostly I will just sit back, listen and soak it all in.

We will be analyzing and discussing a variety of writings, journals, films, books and biblical scripture of course.  A few of those book titles include:  Vulnerable Communion : A Theology of Disability and Hospitality. (Thomas E. Reynolds) - Human Disability and the Service of God : Reassessing Religious Practice (Nancy L Eiesland) - The Disabled God: Toward a Liberatory Theology of Disability (Nancy L Eiesland)

I think it's funny and super coincidental that my "worlds" seem to be colliding lately.   
Maybe I'm thinking waay too much into this, but I defintely feel God working through me here.  He most certainly has a hand in this.  Not sure what he is trying to say, or what he is scheming here, but I'll just let it play out and go along with these various opportunities that he has created for me...

I am also excited to be a mentor to a young girl who is a senior at DC West High School. She has decided to take on Down Syndrome Awareness for her "Senior Project". I have met with her and she has some really great ideas! More on that in a later post for another day :)
"come on Grandpa, hurry up, we're gonna be late for class"!

Jan 27, 2012

All Things McKenzie!!



Since the last few posts have been a bit "Macy" heavy.  I thought I would, in an effort to keep my blog well-balanced, change up the pace a bit.
So this post, is about all things McKenzie.  While, yes, Down Syndrome plays a major role in our life, it is only one small ingredient to our story.  If nothing else, this blog is eclectic & random at best.  Some days (well most days thankfully) are UP, some days are down, some days are silly, some are serious.  But at the end of the day, this blog represents a special mix of what makes our family tick.
That teeny-tiny extra copy of her her baby sisters' third-chromosome is MICROSCOPIC.  So, proportionately, it would most certainly be our goal to keep that "minor chromosomal difference" element as microscopic in our daily dynamic as possible.  So far, that's working out quite well for us. 
Thank you blog friends for keeping up with our craziness.  :-)


Sooo.  okay.
Back to McKenzie, the precocious one.
While, it's true she has developed a bit of a pre-teen attitude, I still love and cherish her to pieces.  She can be the sweetest thing (when she wants to be).





































As you may recall a few months ago, we were having major "clothing issues".  read about her clothing intervention here
I am happy to report that after about three months of "tough clothing love" we were able to bring her clothes back in her room - she earned them back with good behavior.  I'd say she most certainly learned from this experience.  She now understands that a person only needs to wear ONE set of clothes a day (not 20! and it is not okay to change every 10 minutes).  She now picks out her own clothes in the morning, is quite picky, and does not have (in my opinion) the most keen fashion sense, but hey, she's dressed and she's NOT throwing a fit about it.  So it works for me - whatever!
We still have a ways to go and most certainly experience daily "behavior struggles", so we're getting some advice & learning unique tactics at "Love & Logic" class we're taking at church.  hehe
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She loves preschool (especially show & tell days) and holds her teacher, Mrs. Shipe on QUITE the pedestal.  Which makes sense I suppose because she rocks.
The other day McKenzie said something really creative, smart & witty (I forget what it was exactly).
I asked her "Why are you so smart McKenzie?....Is it because your daddy is so smart?"...
"No" She responds.
I tried again, "hmm, oh, it's because your momma is super smart huh"...
"Nope".  She replies with a precarious smile.
"Well, how is it then that you are SOOO smart".  
It's cuz my teacher is SOOO smart!" 

I thought that was really sweet.  I couldn't wait to share that bit of info. with Mrs. Shipe the next day. hehe
She also mentions her teachers daily in her prayers at the dinner table.
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In other news, she still LOVES ballet, enjoys her time spent with friends at Joy's daycare, McKenzie very much looks forward to Oasis & Bethany Buddies every Thursday and Sunday school, she likes going to Kids Camp on Thursdays.  She also has a lot of fun participating during Macy's Special Olympics YAP sessions.
She most definitely loves all the special time she gets to spend with her cousins, which includes lots of parties, sleepovers, movie dates, etc...
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McKenzie also LOVES playing her iPod touch (but it's usually missing, so mommy's iPhone is generally the fall back)  She is a whiz on those apps.  Of course, we download child/age appropriate games and such, but I must say, she can hold her own on adult games too!  A lot of thought, strategy & hand-eye coordination are required for these games, so I am super impressed with her skills...Her most recent conquests have been "Cut the Rope", "Angry Birds" & "Egg Punch".
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below are some recent adventures - pics taken with the iPhone :)
yay Instragram iPhone app  :-)

Jan 26, 2012

2 Year IFSP - a teeny reminder of how our girl is different

We met with our AWESOME Early Intervention team last week to go over and make adjustments to our IFSP (Individual Family Service Plan) - a mere 25 page report on everything MACY.
Sharon (Speech Path), Shelli (Serives Coordinator,) Penny (PT), Renae (Special Education teacher) Valerie Jensen (School District Rep).  not pictured:  Lucy (OT)
I Love how Kenzie & Macy are blurred in the above pic...getting them to sit still for a nano-second is seriously impossible...oh well, this pic wasn't about them anyway.  hehe

Click on the following links for a quick look back at our first few official meetings.  a few weeks old     6 month IFSP     1 yr IFSP     18 month IFSP
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It's funny how most kids go through life, they grow up, develop, they learn skills, etc... Most milestones are noted, but are for the most part over-looked (taken for granted even).   This, I'd say is the norm.

It's funny to think that with our Little Miss Macy NOTHING GOES UNNOTICED and most certainly not unappreciated!  Especially with Miss Sharon (her Speech pathologist documenting her EVERY move - she is a very thorough note-taker during our weekly sessions).  I have always liked to think that Down Syndrome slows things down just enough to truly appreciate each and every milestone, big & small.  Allowing us (not always observant parents) ample time to take notice, savor the moment and celebrate it appropriately before the child moves on and conquers that next challenge/obstacle. 
I'm not saying that Macy is slow...she just likes to take her time!  (As the wise Ferris Bueller once said "Life moves pretty fast, if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it".)  hehe

I have been told, warned rather, that, for us parents, it is in this season of a child with a disabilities life that could perhaps be the most difficult.  It is during these years (1-4 years) that all the typical children begin taking off and developing various skills & abilities so rapidly, effortlessly even.  While Macy rocks & is doing super well, I am certainly not blind to small differences in Macy's preschool class...of which most of her sweet classmates are POTTY-TRAINING even! (but that's another blog).  It is not that in my mind I feel as though Macy may be "falling behind".  Sure, according to her IFSP, she's right on track & doing well.  Yes, I get it.  But I am still human and can wallow around in my own self pity at times.  I'm not gonna lie, it's somewhat frustrating...Wondering how much wider this ability gap will continue to grow.  (right now, at two, hers luckily is super subtle, especially to those unsuspecting friends around us.  I think her outgoing & vivacious personality makes up for any other possible short-comings).
I know she will continue to improve, I have confidence that on the scale of most intellectually disabled individuals she will rank high and be high-functioning.  But I also know that she will never really CATCH  UP to her "typical" friends & cousins, she will always be "behind" or "delayed".  This saddens me yes, but I think eventually I will be more at peace with the idea and accept these differences as no big deal.  She IS going to grow into that person God has specifically created her to be - no matter what.  Having this faith and TRULY believing in it day in & day out is just hard some days.
Perhaps when that day comes when there are no questions, this twisted-knotted feeling in my gut (am.i.doing.enough-are.we.exposing.her.to.right.things/people.the appropriate.amount.of.stimuli, etc...) will just go away and we can breathe easier again...
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okay - enough with that - so now, if you're really bored (and looking to kill time)...here are some EXCITING IFSP details derived from our meeting last week.
Without getting into the nitty-gritty here, we addressed and documented (in a 25+ page report no less) EVERY development in the areas of Macy's VISION, HEARING, HEALTH STATUS, COGNITIVE/THINKING SKILLS, COMMUNICATION SKILLS, SOCIAL SKILLS, BEHAVIORAL SKILLS, SELF-HELP/ADAPTIVE SKILLS, FINE MOTOR SKILLS, GROSS MOTOR SKILLS, etc.  It's quite fascinating actually to see it ALL spelled out on paper and graphed even.  Seeing where and exactly how much (on a bar chart) she has grown since last time.  Who has this much time??  Our IE team apparently.  hehe  Love them & and very much appreciate the time and attention to detail they put into Macy's future of being the best and most productive person she has the potential to be.

So now that we have addressed where she is...what does this mean?  Where do we go from here?  well...here are some simple goals we have set for her:  and YOU CAN HELP!!

Gross Motor Goals -  work to improve Macy's ability to interact and move safely within her environment by mastering the objectives below:
a) develop a true run on flat surfaces, with a brief single stance moment.
b) step up and down from a few steps safely with minimal support
c) kick a ball from standing still position (balancing on one leg to kick with the other)
d) throw a ball overhand forward 3 feet from a standing position while maintaining balance.
e) jump up, clearing her feet from the floor
f) maintain a sitting position when sliding down a short (8 foot or so) slide.
g) propel a ride on a toy forward, backward, and turning it independently.

Fine Motor Goals - Macy will participate in activities to facilitate self help/fine motor skills by mastering the objectives below:
a) Drink from a cup and/or glass with little (to eventually no) spillage
b) Bring food to her mouth using a utensil with minimal to NO spillage 
c) unfasten the zipper and remove her coat
d) undress herself removing all articles of clothing.
e) Turn the pages of a book one page at a time.
f) imitate circular, horizontal and vertical lines with a model.
g) Fit at least 5 shapes into their corresponding places without prompting.

Cognitive Thinking & Social Skills - Macy will be able to play independently with materials in constructive play, imitate daily routines, and participate in interpersonal games.  During play and routines she will be able to demonstrate understanding of verbal requests and next step language.
a) use a variety of toys in constructive play (stacking blocks, connecting large legos etc)
b) sequence several actions during functional play with objects independently.
c) follow familiar one and two step verbal directions with fewer prompts or environmental ques from family and familiar adults.
e) when adults are not near by, use gestures or verbalizes to gain the attention of another to share, show, get help or request an item.
f) engage in parallel play (mimicking the action of others)
g) find 5-7 body parts during play, finger plays or during dressing routines.
h) imitate gestures for a wider variety of interpersonal games.
i) use pictures/gestures or signs to request or initiate familiar games.

Communication Skills - Continue to expand Macy's expressive communication skills by using words/signs/pictures to effectively communicate her wants and needs and to interact with people across her natural environments.
a) engage in vocal play imitating both her sounds and novel sounds when adults initiate them.
b) use sounds (animal-environmental-exclamations), approximated/true words, and signs with/without prompting.
c) Be exposed to picture choices as an additional method to make her wants/needs known (e.g. food items, toy items, routine sequences, availability of objects/activities).
d) Put her sounds/words/signs/pictures together to form combinations.
e) Use words/signs/pictures for early social functions (greet, get help, terminate, initiate, more, etc).
f) Monitor oral sensory motor skills, speech sound production skills.
g) Other things to work on...pausing, turn-taking, making choices, determining adequate portions, etc).

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So there, that's it in a nutshell (it really is helpful for me to type it all out - this "sharing" exercise actually puts it more into perspective for me). 
Next time, you want to productively "play/interact" with Macy, perhaps you could keep a few of these goals in mind.  But really at the end of the day, this is pretty basic and common sense stuff.  Perhaps we're just over-thinking it...but HEY, at least we're thinking about it right!?  :)
That said, it's important to remember that the IFSP is not about predicting Macy's progress. It's about taking steps towards what we believe she can achieve. And we believe her possibilities are endless!

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The plan?  We will continue our weekly Early Intervention Home visits - with Sharon (Speech Pathologist) as her primary service provider and rotating OT, PT & Special Ed into the mix too  :-)

A win-win for all!
so here's to all of us working together - to helping our Little Miss Macy
explore the world around her


Magnify all possibilities - Take it ALL in!
Effortlessly climb that ladder towards success
bring those feet forward...one step at a time...you can do it!
It's not scary, you just have to try.  TRUST ME!
go Macy go!
Such a big girl!  We will most certainly improve on this slide stuff once Spring rolls around  :-)